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{ more re: “project queer” term-definition-fails }

genderbitch:

hopelessly-romantic-cynic:

genderbitch:

lucypaw:

ciscentrismsucks:

freshfeminism:

NO FOR FUCK’S SAKE. 

So many things wrong with this.

Bisexual means attraction to two genders. Bi means two. Two genders. Not necessarily women and men. A bisexual person can be attracted to genderqueer individuals and . There was some discussion on my blog about how most peoples’ definitions of bisexuality are rather binarist. There’s an example of it.

ANOTHER THING.

Someone who is attracted to all gender expressions.

Yes, that much is true. But wait, that’s not the issue that I have here.

men, women, and trans* 

C’mon… There are a LOT more types of gender expression other than “men, women, and trans*” …And I’m pretty sure that for most people (I’m not speaking on behalf of the trans* community), they don’t consider trans* to be a “third gender.” Trans* women are women. Trans* men are men. At least  add an “etc…” to tell people that there are more gender expressions than the three that you mentioned. 

OH, AND ANOTHER THING.

“Gender blindness”

By saying that you are “gender blind,” you’re basically saying “Haha I don’t give a flying fuck about your gender that you’re proud of and love so much coz I’m all gender blind and shit. I don’t have enough sensitivity to realize how much your gender identity matters to you. You’re ____? Great, I don’t care coz I’m gender blind.” 

NO. NO. NO.

This is like saying “I’m color blind.” 
You, asshat. Claiming that you’re apparently colorblind does nothing to help with racism. Rather, it’s erasing POC’s identities AND creating a problematic potential for privilege abuse and denial.

“I can’t be racist! I’m colorblind! …Wait, what’s that you say? I’m being ignorant and whitesplaining you about how your identity and pride of being a POC is irrelevant? Well, now YOU are being the racist one here. How can you possibly be PROUD of being a POC… We’re all human! Frankly, I think that it’s racist for you to be proud of your ethnic heritage. I’d get in trouble if I said that I was proud of being white. I am colorblind, so I don’t see race as an issue. I wish more people were colorblind like me…”

By saying that you are “gender blind,” you are completely erasing people’s gender identities.

Wait a sec, I’m not quite done yet.

bisexuals are attracted to biological men and women

Woah. Way to be cissexist and not understand what bisexuality is. The whole “bio man” “bio woman” thing is really othering. It’s telling trans* people that their identities are not valid because they must be biologically a man/woman to be a man/woman.

Basically, this response is awful.

“Gender blind”….

“Biological men and women” …

“Bisexual: Someone who is attracted to men and women” …

“all gender expressions- men, women, and trans*” 

Need I go on?

Now I’m done.

^ALL OF THIS.

Who the hell are these “project queer” people and why don’t they know some of the most basic things about being queer?

In case anyone wonders why I say I’m ‘queer’ and not ‘pansexual’ even though I am attracted to people of a wide variety of genders?  That nonsense that the Project Queer people have to say about what pansexuality means is actually the most common explanation from pansexual people as to what pansexuality is.  And, given that I’m trans and that my being trans is neither my gender nor my sex nor does it put me in a third category of either of those, I find that definition to be utter rubbish, especially when you throw in the whole ‘genderblind’ craptasticism.  Which is to say I agree with all the previous commentary.

Unfuck this third gendering misgendering erasing bullshit and this “genderblind” crap

In all fairness, they are willing to listen when they’re corrected. They’ve since corrected their definition of bisexuality and would probably do the same if someone pointed out the problems in their definition of pansexuality. Their definitions were (and still are) hella messed up, but people don’t know that they’ve messed-up unless someone says, “Hey, that’s pretty messed-up.” Not necessarily educate them, but point out that what they said is problematic. They can find out why it’s problematic on their own, but they can’t know to search for info if no one points out that there’s a mistake.

ETA: Idk if anyone said anything to them, but they changed their definition of pansexuality a little when they changed their definition of bisexuality. It’s still messed-up though. Not sure if it’s worse or better.

Well if someone else wants to bring it up, please do. I lack the spoons.

(Source: feministilicious, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ even more on the “project queer” fail: STOP STEALING MY IDENTITY TO DESCRIBE FUCKHEADS }

eateroftrees:

genderbitch:

lucypaw:

ciscentrismsucks:

freshfeminism:

NO FOR FUCK’S SAKE. 

So many things wrong with this.

Bisexual means attraction to two genders. Bi means two. Two genders. Not necessarily women and men. A bisexual person can be attracted to genderqueer individuals and . There was some discussion on my blog about how most peoples’ definitions of bisexuality are rather binarist. There’s an example of it.

ANOTHER THING.

Someone who is attracted to all gender expressions.

Yes, that much is true. But wait, that’s not the issue that I have here.

men, women, and trans* 

C’mon… There are a LOT more types of gender expression other than “men, women, and trans*” …And I’m pretty sure that for most people (I’m not speaking on behalf of the trans* community), they don’t consider trans* to be a “third gender.” Trans* women are women. Trans* men are men. At least  add an “etc…” to tell people that there are more gender expressions than the three that you mentioned. 

OH, AND ANOTHER THING.

“Gender blindness”

By saying that you are “gender blind,” you’re basically saying “Haha I don’t give a flying fuck about your gender that you’re proud of and love so much coz I’m all gender blind and shit. I don’t have enough sensitivity to realize how much your gender identity matters to you. You’re ____? Great, I don’t care coz I’m gender blind.” 

NO. NO. NO.

This is like saying “I’m color blind.” 
You, asshat. Claiming that you’re apparently colorblind does nothing to help with racism. Rather, it’s erasing POC’s identities AND creating a problematic potential for privilege abuse and denial.

“I can’t be racist! I’m colorblind! …Wait, what’s that you say? I’m being ignorant and whitesplaining you about how your identity and pride of being a POC is irrelevant? Well, now YOU are being the racist one here. How can you possibly be PROUD of being a POC… We’re all human! Frankly, I think that it’s racist for you to be proud of your ethnic heritage. I’d get in trouble if I said that I was proud of being white. I am colorblind, so I don’t see race as an issue. I wish more people were colorblind like me…”

By saying that you are “gender blind,” you are completely erasing people’s gender identities.

Wait a sec, I’m not quite done yet.

bisexuals are attracted to biological men and women

Woah. Way to be cissexist and not understand what bisexuality is. The whole “bio man” “bio woman” thing is really othering. It’s telling trans* people that their identities are not valid because they must be biologically a man/woman to be a man/woman.

Basically, this response is awful.

“Gender blind”….

“Biological men and women” …

“Bisexual: Someone who is attracted to men and women” …

“all gender expressions- men, women, and trans*” 

Need I go on?

Now I’m done.

^ALL OF THIS.

Who the hell are these “project queer” people and why don’t they know some of the most basic things about being queer?

In case anyone wonders why I say I’m ‘queer’ and not ‘pansexual’ even though I am attracted to people of a wide variety of genders?  That nonsense that the Project Queer people have to say about what pansexuality means is actually the most common explanation from pansexual people as to what pansexuality is.  And, given that I’m trans and that my being trans is neither my gender nor my sex nor does it put me in a third category of either of those, I find that definition to be utter rubbish, especially when you throw in the whole ‘genderblind’ craptasticism.  Which is to say I agree with all the previous commentary.

Unfuck this third gendering misgendering erasing bullshit and this “genderblind” crap

Also using “____ blind” is appropriative of people with disabilities.  Especially of note is that WHEN I TALK ABOUT MY COLORBLINDNESS I HAVE TO CLARIFY I’M TALKING ABOUT ABNORMAL COLOR VISION BECAUSE FUCKHEADS KEEP APPROPRIATING IT!

(Also I should clarify that the cissexism also sucks. Ick.)

Eew, I hadn’t thought of that.  Should’ve known better.

(Source: feministilicious, via thenameoftheworms)

pixyled:

dr-grumbles:

garlandgrey:

You know why feminists just plain do not care for you, lighthouse? You are a whiner. You whine about being called out, and then you play at acknowledging your own privilege. Even if you do make a good point now and again, you are far too much of a liability for any of us to discuss anything with you. You are capricious and spoiled, and your actions tell me that you still believe that this is all about you.

You want to be a better feminist Freddy? NOTHING IS STOPPING YOU BUT YOU. Here are five things that you can do, RIGHT NOW, to be a better feminist:

  1. Do not write about women’s bodies or their sexuality until you’ve been writing and reading feminism long enough to understand that women will never care what you have to say in this area, apart from drawing their attention to the informed writings on this subject by other women.
  2. When you are called out, apologize, remedy what you can, and then step away from the conversation. Do not permeate the conversation with your male privilege and use it to silence women into being nice to you. YOUR VOICE IS LOUDER THAN THEIRS IS. Pretending that you don’t know that is disingenuous. Read every word that is written about you and interrogate yourself rigorously. There is literally no other way to be a feminist.
  3. Stop pretending that you deserve any more chances. You didn’t deserve the first one. You are affecting an acknowledgement of your own mistakes while framing the response to those mistakes as attacks—essentially saying they were right to call you out, but they could have been nicer about it, they could have taken you to a day spa and waited until you had your mud mask on and a towel around your head, laying in the steam room relaxing, and they could have lifted your cucumber slice and said “Lighthouse, it’s really shitty how you wear Feminism like a costume and then snarl and bite at people who wear Feminism like a life vest, seeking to silence them so you can be right all the damn time” so you could give your pores a vacation and better yourself, but take off that guacamole, you look ridiculous. If you think Feminism exists simply so that women can admire you, you are not a fixer upper. It is time to bring in the people with the hard hats.
  4. We reserve the right to be angry at you forever. We are not bad people if we just don’t want to listen to you anymore.
  5. Stop pretending that your voice is a candle in the dark. We are not here to hold your hand or tell you that you that you’re a special little snowflake deserving of puppy kisses and infinite ego cookies. We are adults, discussing adult things. Act like you have some sense, or vacate the fucking Internet.

These are not impossible demands, and they are less than we expect. 

This is a bulleted list of everything I’ve been trying to articulate all afternoon.

Yeah, this list is what I would reccomend as well.
BUt I’d also like to add to vigorously promote Feminist blogs written  by women whenever he can, and when addressing and issue or answering questions, it’d probably also be best to obtain a woman’s voice to add along side yours. Maybe start up a list of women feminist blogs to promote in each post.

(Source: flapjackstate, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ The importance of Charity. }

lucypaw:

missdaisyvo:

Charity comes from love. It is free will; people who give because they have to are in no way charitable. I believe that people ought to lend others a helping hand, but it’s very important that this act of kindness comes from the heart. 

I understand why people think socialized medicine is the right thing to have. You want taxpayers to help take care of the sick, and I do commend your kind hearts. I think you mean well (as far as helping the poor goes), but you ignore the fact that charity doesn’t work that way. Government coercion is theft. No matter what the underlying reason is, it is never okay to use force and waste people’s hard-earned money. Yes, that also goes for funding wars and military bases overseas (I don’t want any liberal to bring that up, as it’s happened before). The freedom of private property is important.

The fact that people ignore that people’s hard-earned money is earned because of the existence of a society which government shapes seems to always be ignored.  Kind of like how the money is, in fact, a government thing.  Don’t believe me?  Look at some cash.  Tell me where it came from.  I’m so tired of the bullshit idea that somehow government is not intrinsically involved in people being able to get money.  Taxation is not theft.  Taxation is paying for maintaining the system that allows one to make money, have a place to live, a job to go to, and so on.  Don’t believe me?  Tell you what.  Go make money in a way that doesn’t involve the government.  Obviously your first problem is going to be getting money since money is a government thing.  But even beyond that you’re going to have problems not using government-funded roads, not using the government-created internet, not using lots of things.

So, please stop with how government is stealing people’s money.  It’s not.  And, don’t even start me on the nonsense idea that somehow healthcare for all should be ‘charity’.  *eyeroll*

{ LINK: Facebook Event: Straight Pride Day }

lucypaw:

microaggressions:

This is not an anti-gay movement of any kind. I would just like some equality.”

massive eyerolling here

LET’S ALL GO FORTH INTO THE STREETS SO THAT THE HET PEOPLE CAN FINALLY GET SOME RESPECT

genderbitch:

calixti:

genderbitch:

Or three, or four, or five, or six, or +

Whenever I see stuff like this that casually erases poly folk, I always mentally rewrite it. In a lot of cases, including this one, it’s really easy to fix by leaving out the number which makes me wish they just WOULD. People make me :/.

People make me :/ too.

[image: text: “Fact No. 23: Good relationships don’t just happen, they take time, patience and two people who want to be together.”]
reblogging for commentary

genderbitch:

calixti:

genderbitch:

Or three, or four, or five, or six, or +

Whenever I see stuff like this that casually erases poly folk, I always mentally rewrite it. In a lot of cases, including this one, it’s really easy to fix by leaving out the number which makes me wish they just WOULD. People make me :/.

People make me :/ too.

[image: text: “Fact No. 23: Good relationships don’t just happen, they take time, patience and two people who want to be together.”]

reblogging for commentary

(via hexgoddess)

{ LINK: Third World Protest as US Spectator Sport }

zuky:

I’m not a fan of the US cultural habit of turning political turmoil in faraway lands into a gawkworthy spectator sport. I came to this realization in the aftermath of the 1989 protests in Tiananmen Square, as it gradually dawned on me that sheltered, largely clueless people who had no stake in what was happening had little business pushing their intrusive, hungry gaze into such multi-faceted, multi-context, volatile, dangerous matters.

The most disturbing aspect of this habit is, in my opinion, the undercurrent of bloodlust, which of course underlies all US “news reporting”, best summarized by the cliche “if it bleeds, it leads”. In the 1989 protests in China, organizers explicitly stated amongst themselves that the world’s eyes were watching and those eyes wanted blood. Protesters knew that if the demonstrations simply ended peacefully, the previously enthralled Western media would be disappointed. They knew that they had to push matters to the point of violence in order to make a lasting point. The Western gaze got what it wanted. As usual, it wasn’t Westerners who paid the price.

I’m not making any particular statement about uprisings in Tunisia or Egypt or Yemen or Lebanon or Xinjiang or Tibet or Myanmar or Thailand or Kenya or South Africa or Indonesia. And I’m definitely not saying that people should not be paying attention to important world events. As I often make clear in all my writings, I vehemently believe that US Americans need to pay much, much more attention to political events throughout the Third World — but not just when there’s a media melee to gawk at and cheer on, in the manner of kids rushing toward a crowd standing on cafeteria tables shouting “Fight! Fight! Fight!”

(via birdr)

{ Writing About Murdered Trans Women: A Handy Dandy Guide for Cis Reporters }

charlie-danger:

- First of all, transgender people are extremely rare, so don’t worry about getting the facts wrong or causing offense- chances are most trans folks are too busy being punchlines or the victims of brutal, systematic violence to pick up a newspaper.

- Since trans people are so very, very uncommon, include a brief explanation of transgender issues at the beginning of your article. Use phrases like “woman trapped in a man’s body” or “they believe themselves to be the opposite sex”.

- Relentlessly misgender the victim.

- Use “transsexual” and “transgender” as nouns instead of adjectives.

- Was the victim a beloved friend, daughter, sister, mother, partner or colleague? Who cares! You certainly don’t, and neither do your readers. Instead, describe any surgery or hormone replacement therapy she’s had.

- Did her neighbors or coworkers know she was transgender? If not: tell them! Record their reactions.

Never refer a transgender woman by her real name. Always use the name she was assigned at birth, even if she did not identify with that name or had it legally changed.

- If possible, describe in great detail what she was wearing at the time of her death. Remember: nothing is too lurid or obscure! You’re a journalist, goddamnit, and this information is titillating important!

- Insinuate that she may have lied to or deceived her killer about her “real” gender.

- If you are unsure of something, DON’T LOOK IT UP. Research can only hurt your article. Rely entirely on your knowledge of transgender issues as seen on television.

- Don’t forget: headlines should be fun! Take this opportunity to showcase your sense of humor, or perhaps a skillful bit of alliteration.  Puns are especially appropriate.

most media = made of fail

(Source: birdr)

{ this is why 95% of the people who claim to be of the same groups as i, who say they share the same label as i do and who claim to work for the same goals }

genderqueerdukeofmexico:

allthebloodinmyveins:

are not my allies and will never be so as long as they continue to use racism, sexism, tokenism, objectification, homophobia, transphobia, and any other oppressive system blithely and unapologetically while trying to argue that they work for a freer world.

And why I will continue to form and forge friendships with people who are really, and truly working to make a difference.

^THIS

yes

(via femmequeermexicanaslut)

{ Chelsea Handler is total garbage }

*trigger warning* for excerpts from her shitty racist ‘comedy’, & also for some ableism/misogyny in the text

littleorphanammo:

And I mean that in the worst way possible.

Comedians are supposed to be funny right?  I mean, that’s their job?  The thing about great social comedians is that they bring injustices to light and let you look at them in a way that you can laugh at. Horrible things.Terrible, awful no good things. You laugh at them because in that moment you realize how stupid it really is, and how dumb it is and how ludicrous the status quo actually is. You aren’t laughing at the victims you are laughing at the society that created the institutions that failed them. In that release, in that haha can come a moment of realization and some really profound personal changes can take place and root themselves. 

What good comedians don’t do is mock victims of injustice, even if the victimization and the infrastructure that allowed it is the subject or crux of the joke.  Good comedy is never mean to the plebes, it’s mean to the overlords. They’re fucking court jesters mocking the king, not the subjects. You shouldn’t walk away from comedy feeling upset or unnerved or dirty or bad. Even if the jokes appear to be on the surface tasteless, someone who knows what they are doing will show you the depth of the concept, the idea, the subject matter. There is always deep humanity in great comedy, even if it appears brusque and rough and sharp.

This though:

So technically that baby’s African American everybody… Do you think she’ll talk loud in movie theaters? I hope she doesn’t ‘axe’ her parents too many questions.

Do you ever wonder why that little Eskimo Maddox never smiles? Doesn’t he look pissed off all the time?… He’s pissed off, because he probably thought he was scoring the biggest deal of his lifetime to get rescued from his third world Cambodia, only to find out she’s going to take him to every other f*cking third world country in the world.

That’s not comedy. That’s getting up on a stage and being an asshole. That has nothing to do with comedy. She’s not actually making fun of Angelina Jolie or the predilection of celebrities to adopt babies from foreign countries, which is weird and appalling and deserves to be discussed.  You can see that in that ignorant, racist mess, that was actually the point she was trying to get at. But she’s such a hack and she’s such an asshole and she’s so untalented that she’s made the mistake of making fun of her children, which is not the point at all. She misses the point of her own joke by 10 damn miles.

She’s not funny, she’s not insightful and she’s not interesting. 

She talks about wanting people to ‘know who she is’.  Bitch I don’t wanna know your ugly ass self. You can keep that shit in your living room.

^this is awesome.  reblog.

(Source: celebitchy.com)