PRESS CTRL OR COMMAND+ FOR BIGGER TEXT, CTRL OR COMMAND- FOR SMALLER TEXT
SKIP TO NAVIGATION & SEARCH | SKIP TO CONTENT

threeoh4:

i want to help change the way the world sees rape, sexual assault, stalking, and domestic violence.  i want to help change the way the world sees the women who are victims of those horrible acts.  i want to help change the way we react to it and i want to help change the way we treat stalking, SA, and DV victims.

the world we live in now treats a victim as a potential perpetrator - it makes them into villains.  “where were you” “what were you doing” “what were you wearing” “did you have any alcohol” and other questions that, on the face of them, seeks to change a woman who needs help into a person committing a crime.

right now, and this is the truth, if you are anything other than a young, thin, straight, beautiful white woman - or unless your assault was extremely violent (visible cuts, bruises, broken bones, needing hospitalization), the odds are the police and law enforcement won’t believe you.  oh, they’ll ask you questions but they’ll be questions that are designed to “get to the truth.” (the truth being the accusation of rape, assault, or domestic violence is bogus)

right now, if you are fat, non-white, or/and any gender or sexual identity other than straight and female, the odds are no one will believe you and it will be more trouble than it’s worth to report it to law enforcement.

that isn’t the way it should be.  law enforcement should be a safe haven for us.  it should be a place we can run to and know we are not alone. 

at this point, the majority of the time, no one cares until a dead body shows up - and that’s not the way it should be.  not at all.

i want to help change that.

(Source: peechingtonmariejust)

{ LINK: 8 players in today's Super Bowl have been accused of sexual assault. }

pattivegenaisexvx:

(Source: backfromthedeadred, via custerdiedforyoursins)

{ LINK: February is also Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month }

threeoh4:

Teen Dating Violence (DV) Prevention and Awareness Month is a national effort to raise awareness about abuse in youth relationships and promote programs that prevent it during the month of February.

The repercussions of teen dating violence are impossible to ignore – they hurt not just the young people victimized but also their families, friends, schools and communities. Throughout February, organizations and individuals nationwide are coming together to highlight the need to educate young people about healthy relationships, teach healthy relationship skills and prevent the devastating cycle of abuse.

(Source: peechingtonmariejust)

{ I don’t think ppl understand how deep it can go. }

threeoh4:

So maybe I can help a bit.

  • Only respond with support and love when someone comes out to you about their past or present regarding rape, assault, and abuse.
  • If someone is still with their abuser or still living in abusive conditions, do not try to force them to leave.
  • Do not talk around the person if other people are around. Include them in conversations at all times.
  • Try your best to be understanding and never condescending with your friend or client if they have not left their abuser.
  • The only things you need to give are: 1. support and 2. options.  If you cannot give either, the best thing to do is find a support number they can call.  Here are some for reference:
    1. RAINN (The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) - 800-656-HOPE(4673) (http://www.rainn.org/)
    2. The National Domestic Abuse Hotline - 800-799-SAFE(7233), or 800-787-3224 (TTY) (http://www.thehotline.org/)
    3. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 800-273-8255 (http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/)
    4. If they are in immediate danger, they can always call 911.
  • Many people who come out regarding abuse, rape, domestic violence, or incest can be extremely defensive.  Remember, they are telling you what could be their deepest secret.  They might not be secure about it - you may be the first person they have ever told!  Let that temper your reaction and response.  Abusing them more will not help.
  • Online can be even more problematic because if you do not respond in an appropriate manner, the person may be alone and unable to deal with any feelings that come up resulting from your words.  If a person comes out regarding abuse, never use their moment of victory as a stepping stone for a sermon about kink, roleplay, bdsm and/or consent.  Never.  Save that for later or for your own safe space - you never know how your words might affect someone else.
  • Again, the only two responses that are needed for advocacy in situations regarding rape, incest, sexual assault, domestic violence and abuse are: support and options.

_____________________

If you’re reading this and you need help, please call one of those numbers.  Make sure you are in a safe place where you won’t be found during your call.  If you choose to go to websites about help, please make sure you are in a safe place (like a public library or a friend’s computer) and using a computer where the history will not be monitored.  If you’re using a website, always keep track of the QUICK ESCAPE button.  It’s usually located in the top right corner of the page.  If you click it it will take you to an unrelated website in case you are found while using the site. If you need to talk, there is help and there is hope. You’re not alone.  Love.

(Source: peechingtonmariejust)

{ LINK: My name escapes their minds: darling80m: “Blame the Muslims”: Violence Against Women in Egypt -... }

darling80m:

“Blame the Muslims”: Violence Against Women in Egypt - Huffington Post

almaswithinalmas:

As soon as CBS announced yesterday that correspondent Lara Logan had been sexually assaulted while covering the Egyptian protests, the media sprang alive in search of a scapegoat….

(via juthikaforpresident-deactivated)

{ LINK: My name escapes their minds: Violence Towards Women }

thepeacockangel:

Whenever I hear sex negative feminists proclaim that “porn is violence towards women” or “high heels are violence towards women” I can’t help but feel incredibly hurt.

First of all, I have experienced actual violence towards women. I’ve been a victim of sexual assault…

(via juthikaforpresident-deactivated)

fiercelynative:

sadydoyle:

This is a thing. It exists in the world. Maybe you all know about it. It was the first thing I saw when I checked in on Twitter, however. 
In summary: This is a thing. 

I can’t.

[image: screenshot of a poll titled “Is Lara Logan to blame for her sexual assault?”]

fiercelynative:

sadydoyle:

This is a thing. It exists in the world. Maybe you all know about it. It was the first thing I saw when I checked in on Twitter, however. 

In summary: This is a thing. 

I can’t.

[image: screenshot of a poll titled “Is Lara Logan to blame for her sexual assault?”]

(via lakalenyu-deactivated20111225)

“Pentagon spokesman Geoff Morrell said in a statement that sexual assault is a wider societal problem and that Gates has been working to ensure the military is doing all it can to prevent and respond to it.”

Veterans sue over sexual abuse - The Boston Globe

I love how most people only like to admit that sexual violence is a “wider societal problem” when this fact can be conveniently used specifically to excuse and deny their own culpability in rape culture.

(via thecurvature)

(via thecurvature)

thejuthikakid:

taniada:

dinokitten:

fyeahpdd:

Privilege Denying Dude: [Picture: Background: 8 piece pie style color  split with red and teal alternating. Foreground: White, cisgender guy  with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down  and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed  arms. Top text: “ It’s unscientific to immediately believe someone ” Bottom text: “ who tells you ‘I have been sexually abused/assaulted.’   ”]
Said by Carl Sagan in chapter 9 (“Therapy”) of his book The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark, which I am reading for a class right now. (Yes, the same guy who said “we’re made of star stuff” and “billions and billions of stars.”)

FUCK.
THE END. I’M DONE. NOTHING IS SAFE. CARL SAGAN AND AMANDA PALMER AND STEPHEN FRY AND EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING I LOVE IS PRIVILEGE-DENYING AND TERRIBLE.
MORAL OF THE STORY: DON’T LOVE ANYTHING EVER.

reblogging again because this^
I’m done. I’m ragequitting and moving to a new galaxy.

NO CARL SAGAN WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

thejuthikakid:

taniada:

dinokitten:

fyeahpdd:

Privilege Denying Dude: [Picture: Background: 8 piece pie style color split with red and teal alternating. Foreground: White, cisgender guy with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed arms. Top text: “ It’s unscientific to immediately believe someone ” Bottom text: “ who tells you ‘I have been sexually abused/assaulted.’ ”]

Said by Carl Sagan in chapter 9 (“Therapy”) of his book The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark, which I am reading for a class right now. (Yes, the same guy who said “we’re made of star stuff” and “billions and billions of stars.”)

FUCK.

THE END. I’M DONE. NOTHING IS SAFE. CARL SAGAN AND AMANDA PALMER AND STEPHEN FRY AND EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING I LOVE IS PRIVILEGE-DENYING AND TERRIBLE.

MORAL OF THE STORY: DON’T LOVE ANYTHING EVER.

reblogging again because this^

I’m done. I’m ragequitting and moving to a new galaxy.

NO CARL SAGAN WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

(Source: , via juthikaforpresident-deactivated)

firesandwords:

thejuthikakid:

taniada:

dinokitten:

fyeahpdd:

Privilege Denying Dude: [Picture: Background: 8 piece pie style color  split with red and teal alternating. Foreground: White, cisgender guy  with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down  and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed  arms. Top text: “ It’s unscientific to immediately believe someone ” Bottom text: “ who tells you ‘I have been sexually abused/assaulted.’   ”]
Said by Carl Sagan in chapter 9 (“Therapy”) of his book The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark, which I am reading for a class right now. (Yes, the same guy who said “we’re made of star stuff” and “billions and billions of stars.”)

FUCK.
THE END. I’M DONE. NOTHING IS SAFE. CARL SAGAN AND AMANDA PALMER AND STEPHEN FRY AND EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING I LOVE IS PRIVILEGE-DENYING AND TERRIBLE.
MORAL OF THE STORY: DON’T LOVE ANYTHING EVER.

reblogging again because this^
I’m done. I’m ragequitting and moving to a new galaxy.

NO CARL SAGAN WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

‘objectively upholding the status quo does not make you neutral, apolitical, unaffiliated, scientific or necessarily empirical. it just means you and your privileges are subconsciously perpetuating existing systems of domination by failing to acknowledge, confront and be accountable to them. it doesn’t make you a critical thinker; in fact, it does the opposite, it makes you a bystander. and it insists that the status quo be the default. you actually support what already exists so you don’t have to voice support for anything else. in short, claiming objectivity allows you to shoot down the logic of responses to oppression while not critiquing the logic of oppression itself.’
i scribbled this into my notebook during a frustrating day of work at a fancy bookstore where pretentious academic snobs like to intellectualize oppression in order to avoid responsibility. i added a few things just now and it’s a bit vague, but i was trying to encompass a variety of stupid, erasing shit i’ve heard in defense of being objective and not taking sides. 

re-reblogging for firesandwords’ additional commentary

firesandwords:

thejuthikakid:

taniada:

dinokitten:

fyeahpdd:

Privilege Denying Dude: [Picture: Background: 8 piece pie style color split with red and teal alternating. Foreground: White, cisgender guy with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed arms. Top text: “ It’s unscientific to immediately believe someone ” Bottom text: “ who tells you ‘I have been sexually abused/assaulted.’ ”]

Said by Carl Sagan in chapter 9 (“Therapy”) of his book The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark, which I am reading for a class right now. (Yes, the same guy who said “we’re made of star stuff” and “billions and billions of stars.”)

FUCK.

THE END. I’M DONE. NOTHING IS SAFE. CARL SAGAN AND AMANDA PALMER AND STEPHEN FRY AND EVERYBODY AND EVERYTHING I LOVE IS PRIVILEGE-DENYING AND TERRIBLE.

MORAL OF THE STORY: DON’T LOVE ANYTHING EVER.

reblogging again because this^

I’m done. I’m ragequitting and moving to a new galaxy.

NO CARL SAGAN WHAT HAVE YOU DONE

‘objectively upholding the status quo does not make you neutral, apolitical, unaffiliated, scientific or necessarily empirical. it just means you and your privileges are subconsciously perpetuating existing systems of domination by failing to acknowledge, confront and be accountable to them. it doesn’t make you a critical thinker; in fact, it does the opposite, it makes you a bystander. and it insists that the status quo be the default. you actually support what already exists so you don’t have to voice support for anything else. in short, claiming objectivity allows you to shoot down the logic of responses to oppression while not critiquing the logic of oppression itself.’

i scribbled this into my notebook during a frustrating day of work at a fancy bookstore where pretentious academic snobs like to intellectualize oppression in order to avoid responsibility. i added a few things just now and it’s a bit vague, but i was trying to encompass a variety of stupid, erasing shit i’ve heard in defense of being objective and not taking sides. 

re-reblogging for firesandwords’ additional commentary

(Source: )