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coupdefoudre:

what if people wrote polyfidelity/polyamory in fanfics/comics beyond just one-night threesomes and people not being able to decide who they wanna have sex with more and things that burn and crash in flames because “YOU CANT LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON” (wow) (no)

(via nicocoer)

“When do I get to like the things I like and choose for myself? When I make the choices that are in line with your vision of feminism? Humanism? Atheism?

Do you realize how insulting it is to women to constantly say “you’ve been indoctrinated to like this, so you have to unindoctrinate yourself until you don’t like this, because you have no innate preferences”.

How many times do I have to “just examine” before something becomes my own?”

—

Blocky Sheep and TNT

 

(via blocky-sheep-deactivated2011102)

{ LINK: Sex Positivity is Rape Culture in Disguise [Trigger Warning: Rape, Rape Culture discussed at link] }

eateroftrees:

Or, in which I attempt to alienate all my followers.

Mostly it discusses ways in which rape culture and sex positivity intersect, especially for people who are less sexual then is normative, such as asexual people, gray-asexual people, people with sex related triggers, people with autism who get completely overwhelmed by sex, etc.

please read this if you can, very important.

(Source: thenameoftheworms)

{ LINK: Eater of Trees: cydne-should-be-sleeping: thefremen: (TW: Mention of rape)Literally,... }

cydne-should-be-sleeping:

thefremen:

(TW: Mention of rape)Literally, IRL.: Actually really fucking creeped out by this

teammedea:

thefremen:

teammedea:

i-sauntered-vaguely-downwards:

eateroftrees:

Like really how the fuck do people think “enthusiastic” is a…

(Source: thenameoftheworms, via thenameoftheworms)

{ my offer: let’s become epic together. }

let’s be awesome.

let’s make life a big damn novel or a movie or a play.

let’s trade energy and warmth and ideas.

let’s be characters.

let’s feel our lives and the stories we write

run together like inked letters

under a droplet of spilled drink.

————-

nothing will ever be as awesome as i want it to be.  but i’m up for trying this if any of you are.

{ LINK: Etiquette, etc.: decolonizing love: take #180 }

etiquette-etc:

i have a question but first a story:

when i think about be a little kids there’s always this image that surfaces above all the other ones: me waiting for my parents to get home from work. every night they would come home some time near midnight, kiss me good night and go to sleep only to repeat that routine at 9 am in the morning the next day. as a kid, i was fine with it and more or less understood affection as something that would happen incrementally if i just waited.

as new immigrants, they worked three jobs at a time to make ends or even be just the cusp of not getting to it. sometimes i never knew because when i think about growing up in a pretty affluent part of vancouver as a child of two working class immigrants of colour i sometimes think that one of the things that we know how to do best is pretend we’re rich. in tagalog, to say i love you is “mahal kita.” to say this is expensive is “mahal ito.” i always thought it was funny that mahal meant both love and expensive. more of less, i understood acceptance as something valued in cost. 

when i think about some of the reasons why people emigrate to canada i think about that canadian dream that we’re force fed to know as something we should work towards. i think about the ideal white picket fence life that goes along swimmingly in unison with your neighbours, whatever backgrounds they might be coming from. and then i think about how all of that is really just a massive euphemism for a narrative that only makes way for certain characters. this is also where i think about the diaspora of philippines. how circular migration is common place for so many people and families and how this too is a massive euphemism for permanent impermanence and displacement in land, heart, and community. there are so many families that have been separated in order to financially support their families. how does this affect the people who are a part of this direct process? this becomes the cost of making ends meet.

what could “hope” actually mean in this instance if it’s marginalized folk hoping to get a better break in a nation-state that won’t include them in their own history. there is a massive violence in the unification of national narratives in which the struggles of the working class, and in my experience, the struggles of invisiblized, racialized, immigrant working class folk are turning the wheels for gears that put imperialism into motion. hope becomes a waiting room that one could be in for a life time - again, to make ends meet. though, making ends meet in this way only really loops the ends, turning this process into a cycle. 

i’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of loving while struggling lately. just the other day, i wrote about learning to love past struggle and realized that maybe that isn’t necessarily the route i want to take in loving myself. it is not always mutually exclusive to everyone’s definitions, but in some ways, fear can be a contributer to how someone defines love. as great as it would be distill and extract fear, it is also an uncontrollable reality for many whose fears are imbedded by and cast on by larger systems of power. it is a privileged thought to think that struggles can and must be pushed aside to skillfully grow with another. i think the key is to recognize the struggle, yet still find ways to forge on and resist. what i’m beginning to lean towards might be more about fearless love; love that is understanding of the walls and apprehension that someone might have due to their realities, histories, and struggles. i’m beginning to think that transnational imperialism is creating a legacy of collective, yet normalized trauma in some communities.

how does understanding love through this reality affect the ways in which we, as transnational working immigrants, construct/enact/define love? how do the ideas of hope andwaiting reproduce and come into play in personal, familial and intimate relationships?

(via rematiration)

{ #Arkh needs help from our supporters of different cultures! }

thearkhproject:

So what #Arkh has decided to explore for each level is a specific cultural story about either:

  • Romantic Love
  • Close, devoted friendship
  • Close familial relationships

Please send us notes and fanmail with the name of story, the culture it’s from, and a short synopsis of the story. You NEED to have a lot of information about the story, and preferably it’s a bit of a long, detailed story with numerous different versions and lots of background information on the main characters involved. Please only give us stories from a culture you are a part of, and do not give us stories if they are disrespectful for us to use.

We need stories that have a lot of information, because this will go into quests for each level of Arkh. We are looking for stories from the following general areas/races/cultures, and we are not picky about which culture within that area, as long as there is a lot of information on it:

  • South Asian
  • Indigenous (from any continent, PLEASE specify)
  • East African
  • East Asian
  • West African
  • West Indian
  • West Asian
  • South East Asian
  • Middle Eastern
  • Walking People/Rroma/Romani/Pavee

We’re doubly interested if any of these stories are mass celebrated with festivals/festivities of any kind!

Thanks so much to everyone for their continued support!

signal boost

{ LINK: Toronto, ON: Trans Film Screening Series: "Paper Dolls" | Monday at 6:30pm at New College Hall-45 Willcocks St. [facebook page for the event] }

via Support CeCe McDonald (link):

Hey Everyone! All of you should come out to this amazing event Monday night! It’s extra special because there will be a letter writing table for sending Cece Mcdonald notes of support. We’re also looking for a Trans PoC to speak shortly before the fim plays, so if you, or any other rad folks you know fit that description, get in touch with Trans-Film Screening-Series! Come out see a great film, write an important letter, and say hey to me!

from the event page:

==>Trans Film Night: “Paper Dolls”
==>Free Film! Free Snacks! Free Talk!

The Trans Film Screening Series hosts a FREE screening of:
“PAPER DOLLS”

Everyone welcome. Allies welcome.

►Paper Dolls: a documentary that follows the lives of trans migrant workers from the Philippines. They’ve emigrated to Israel to work as care-givers for elderly orthodox Jewish men. On their one day off per week, they perform as the drag troupe “Paper Dolls”. Filled with contradictions and shattering preconceived expectations, the film is a journey of a young Israeli filmmaker who befriends the group. Through the characters, the impacts of political policy and the pains of precarious work are lived. On another level, the film is about trans people rejected by their families who emigrate to care for other people’s parents who have been rejected by their children in old age. There is much to explore through the Paper Dolls art, work and relationships.

dir.:Tomer Heymann
rated:unrated (2006) <80min>
language:Hebrew, English, Tagalog (English subtitles)
trigger warnings:scenes of immigration/police abuse, scenes of bomb-aftermath

DATE AND TIME:
Monday May 28, 2012
6:30pm – 8:30pm (doors open 6pm)
FREE
LOCATION:
William Doo Auditorium
45 Willcocks st.

***As we share in this event and come together, we recognize that we do so on Indigenous Land***

For info and accessibility contact: transfilmseries@gmail.com

|| ASL-English Interpretation || gender-neutral washrooms* || wheelchair accessible ||
|| trans-positive space || food - vegan & nut-free || TTC tokens available || FREE ||

Film discussion afterwards.

Follow on Twitter @TRANSfilmseries

TRANS FILM SCREENING SERIES’ MAY DAY EDITION
*presented in association with the Equity Studies Student Union*