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{ LINK: Today in Rape Culture [Trigger warning for rape, transphobia, and police abuse] }

sisterhoodispowerful:

[Trigger warning for rape, transphobia, and police abuse]

Um, wow. A friend on Facebook just posted one of the more horrific things I’ve [TW!] read lately. Basically, San Antonio police officer Craig Nash detained a trans woman, and proceeded to rape her. The woman…

(Source: slutever--forever, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ LINK: a crooked girl: in honor of roe v wade's birthday (*trigger warning* for mention of child rape) }

heartinakiln:

once upon a time, i was pro life

i was raised catholic, ok? this was the only thing i knew. i was 13. i did not understand the fine nuances of the issue. i did not understand what pregnancy does to a woman’s body. i did not understand that rape happens. i thought it was easy, black and white.

{ LINK: rape culture is... (*trigger warning*) }

babesmomma:

Rape culture is pervasive narratives about rape that exist despite evidence to the contrary. Rape culture is pervasive imagery of stranger rape, even though women are three times more likely to be raped by someone they know than a stranger, and nine times more likely to be raped in their home, the home of someone they know, or anywhere else than being raped on the street, making what is commonly referred to as “date rape” by far the most prevalent type of rape. Rape culture is pervasive insistence that false reports are common, although they are less common (1.6%) than false reports of auto theft (2.6%). Rape culture is pervasive claims that women make rape accusations willy-nilly, when 61% of rapes remain unreported.

-Rape Culture 101

Rape culture is why my husband was terrified of sex for a long time, and still is wary about it, for fear that he’ll be accused falsely.  Rape culture is why I didn’t tell my husband for over two years that he had raped me one night.  Rape culture is why my husband is terrified to show his daughter affection, or let me and our children walk alone, be alone.

Rape culture is why to this day I still harbor resentment for myself for refusing to acknowledge that my husband had raped me.  Rape culture is why I stopped spending time with guys alone, when I was twice molested for “leading them on.”

Rape culture is why I rant and rave at people, especially women, who victim-blame.

(Source: salandered, via escapefromdadmountain)

{ Stop telling me, women, and people in general, what they can, should, and MUST do to prevent being victimised. }

genderbitch:

wholelottadicks:

genderbitch:

wholelottadicks:

genderbitch:

victoriajakes:

genderbitch:

ovarycat:

crystalsoulslayer:

If I want to go to the worst part of town in the middle of the night, naked, drunk, alone, and with no means whatsoever of defending myself, singing a song about all the sex I have loved and enjoyed with other men, I should be able to do this without anything happening. (Not that I would ever actually do this, obviously. I’m making a point.)

^Precisely.

This^

You shouldn’t even have to put the “i wouldn’t actually do this” disclaimer on it.

I also want to add something about how rape culture presents rape as this thing that happens in the dark with a stranger hiding in the bushes. It sets up the idea that rapists are monsters in the night, preying in whoever they see as most vulnerable, something implied by her intoxication or dress. The reality is that rapists are doctors and lawyers and bankers and trashmen and fathers and brothers and teachers and husbands and sons and friends and lovers. Rape happens in offices and living rooms and private bedrooms and marital beds. Rape has very little to do with how much a woman is wearing or what part of town she’s in or how much she’s had to drink. But when rape culture insists that women take on the responsibility of preventing this evil monster in the shadows, it is hiding the fact that in the end it doesn’t matter how much we monitor our own behavior. My actions have nothing to do with whether or not I’ll be raped. The best way to stop rape is to not rape someone.

Commentary^

I’ve only ever been raped and sexually assaulted by a partner and friends. Strangers haven’t done shit to me.

kinsey, i love you, but please dont alienate people that were raped by complete strangers

How is pointing out my experiences with rape and assault alienating people with different experiences? This whole reblog is about stopping the erasure of acquaintance, friend, family and partner rape in favor of creating a narrative that rape is a stranger only thing.

If anything, it’s just here to stop the alienation of those not raped by strangers, as we exist too.

i know, and i dont disagree with any of the stuff here, but the wording there sounds strongly “stranger rape doesnt happen” which really bothers me as someone that that has happened to

i… sorry, maybe that isnt fair, its just been bothering me a lot lately, when people abandon people whove experienced stranger rape because its the most common narrative despite being less common than acquaintance or partner rape, that i just kind of immediately react when it seems like thats whats going on. that isnt right, im sorry.

Nah, it’s okay. If you interpreted the commentary that way then no doubt someone else could, so let me stress right now, Stranger Rape can and does happen. It is not a fantasy, it does occur.

It just doesn’t occur as much as society pretends and that’s what we need to address, without erasing folks who have experienced it.

There, that should clear it up. Thanks for bringing up your concerns and sorry I didn’t realize it was an impression built from poor wording.

(Source: green-street-politics, via hexgoddess)

{ I Live In A Remote Hamlet And My Father Has Less Cows Than Your Father. }

jaded16india:

There is a way of reporting dusty news to arouse utmost sympathy. This method is so universal that dusty peepal use it too*: 

  • Talk about cows goat sheep ram mice and how someone has more animals than the person you’re discussing.
  • Talk about how squatting in this ditch is worse than say, That One; use pictures and say That One has more leg-room. This means peepals squatting in That One are less oppressed. This is also how you measure two forms of oppression, just fyi
  • Talk about Remote Hamlet and how far from Civilisation It Is, this way nice imperial person can drool-dream about saving Remote Hamlet while sitting in the Center Of Civilisation.
  • The Remote Hamlet should have at least one villain who wants to eat peepals for lunch or something. Otherwise no one will be interested in knowing about Remote Hamlet peeps.  

———

This is a seriously triggering interview with a rape survivor in the Times Of India which used the word ‘Hamlet’ instead of ‘village’ or ‘town’ that got me thinking about misrepresentation. I suggest not looking at this interview if victim-blaming triggers you. I had to wait about 11 hours before I could open that link and I was still shivering so a fair warning. 

(via oncejadedtwicesnarked-deactivat)

stfusexists:

hells-bells-trudy:

I just needed the above on my blog. I find it disgusting the things we will forgive of professional athletes. 
Michael Vick was shunned because of a dog fighting circle, and rightly so.
Roethlisberger raped two women and is embraced in spite of it.
Women < dogs. That’s what I’m getting from this.

And let’s also not pretend for a second that race has nothing to do with Vick’s being shunned even after serving his time, admitting his guilt, and openly apologizing and complying with the terms of his sentencing. That doesn’t make what he did okay, but at least he’s paid for his crimes. No one cares enough to bring a case against oh so wonderful white athlete dood. 

stfusexists:

hells-bells-trudy:

I just needed the above on my blog. I find it disgusting the things we will forgive of professional athletes. 

Michael Vick was shunned because of a dog fighting circle, and rightly so.

Roethlisberger raped two women and is embraced in spite of it.

Women < dogs. That’s what I’m getting from this.

And let’s also not pretend for a second that race has nothing to do with Vick’s being shunned even after serving his time, admitting his guilt, and openly apologizing and complying with the terms of his sentencing. That doesn’t make what he did okay, but at least he’s paid for his crimes. No one cares enough to bring a case against oh so wonderful white athlete dood. 

(via grrspit)

{ LINK: more commentary on the Roethlisberger rape case (*trigger warning*) }

tranzient:

“Meanwhile, Roethlisberger’s lawyer is telling journalists, “Ben has never sexually assaulted anyone; especially Andrea McNulty.” Especially her? How the hell do you especially not rape someone? “These other women, I merely did not rape, but that one I extra super double did not rape!” Huh? Oh wait, I think I get it. I’ve got a dollar that says we’re about to find out that he doesn’t deny having sex with her, but she wanted it. And we all know most girls would feel lucky to get to have sex with Ben Roethlisberger, and men totally only rape when they can’t otherwise get laid, so why would he need to rape this one? Another dollar says the “especially” means we’re also about to hear that, dude, she’s not even that hot — the same defense Kobe Bryant used — and nobody ever rapes ugly women, so there you go. It’s her word against his, and really, who are you going to believe? The guy’s a national treasure. The woman’s just somebody willing to subject herself to public humiliation and intense scrutiny of her entire life in order to hold a man accountable for allegedly raping her. I think we can all agree it’s obvious who’s got the greater motive to lie — that golddigging bitch! Case closed. Say it with me, folks: That’s rape culture.”

—When sports culture meets rape culture - Kate Harding

Trigger warning for being way too fucking real. 

(via stfusexists)

(via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ "Don’t say rape when you don’t mean rape" (*trigger warning*) }

andtheskygoesblack:

Don’t say rape when you don’t mean rape.

There are many things rape is not:

  • consensual sex
  • affectionate contact
  • a bear hug
  • a tackle
  • eye contact
  • an argument
  • a surprise
  • overburdening
  • an athletic loss
  • a neutral metaphor

There are only a few things rape is:

  • forcing sex on a person
  • despoiling a population or place
  • [a mustard plant or grape residue]

No one rapes your Internet connection, or rapes you in a debate. No one rapes your ask box with spam. People don’t rape with their eyes, that’s called “eye-fucking.” You are not raped with a passionate hug. No one rapes you at basketball or rapes you with a tackle, playful or athletic. You don’t want someone to rape you, because then it isn’t rape. Wanting to rape does not mean wanting to have sex. You do not want to rape people to whom you’re attracted, unless you are a rapist.

As long as I’m talking about it, here are some misconceptions:

  • Nonchalance toward rape does not combat the stigmatization attached to victims.
  • The word rape does not give itself power. The power comes from the context of the word for victims.
  • Rape victims are not asking you to be hypersensitive by asking you not to belittle or to trigger a trauma.
  • I’m not violating your right to free speech by asking you to be considerate.

If you read this and felt attacked, ask yourself why. We don’t say “sexually abused” metaphorically, so why say rape? I’m not asking you to never use the word. I just believe it should only be used when you seriously mean rape. When we live in a world without millions of victims, we can talk about redefining or reclaiming it.

I even have alternatives, though there are obviously many more:

  • ravish
  • ravage
  • exhaust
  • overwork
  • pulverize
  • obliterate
  • trash
  • defile
  • squash
  • clobber
  • pommel
  • destroy
  • burden
  • defeat
  • massacre
  • trample
  • vanquish
  • overpower
  • thwart

I’d probably be careful with “ravage” (and maybe “ravish”, too) and “massacre”, since “ravage” and “ravish” are so closely associated with “rape” and using “massacre” to describe anything that’s not an actual massacre seems pretty minimizing to me.

(Source: nathanonline, via juthikaforpresident-deactivated)

{ "Don’t say rape when you don’t mean rape" (*trigger warning*) }

eateroftrees:

numol:

andtheskygoesblack:

Don’t say rape when you don’t mean rape.

There are many things rape is not:

  • consensual sex
  • affectionate contact
  • a bear hug
  • a tackle
  • eye contact
  • an argument
  • a surprise
  • overburdening
  • an athletic loss
  • a neutral metaphor

There are only a few things rape is:

  • forcing sex on a person
  • despoiling a population or place
  • [a mustard plant or grape residue]

No one rapes your Internet connection, or rapes you in a debate. No one rapes your ask box with spam. People don’t rape with their eyes, that’s called “eye-fucking.” You are not raped with a passionate hug. No one rapes you at basketball or rapes you with a tackle, playful or athletic. You don’t want someone to rape you, because then it isn’t rape. Wanting to rape does not mean wanting to have sex. You do not want to rape people to whom you’re attracted, unless you are a rapist.

As long as I’m talking about it, here are some misconceptions:

  • Nonchalance toward rape does not combat the stigmatization attached to victims.
  • The word rape does not give itself power. The power comes from the context of the word for victims.
  • Rape victims are not asking you to be hypersensitive by asking you not to belittle or to trigger a trauma.
  • I’m not violating your right to free speech by asking you to be considerate.

If you read this and felt attacked, ask yourself why. We don’t say “sexually abused” metaphorically, so why say rape? I’m not asking you to never use the word. I just believe it should only be used when you seriously mean rape. When we live in a world without millions of victims, we can talk about redefining or reclaiming it.

I even have alternatives, though there are obviously many more:

  • ravish
  • ravage
  • exhaust
  • overwork
  • pulverize
  • obliterate
  • trash
  • defile
  • squash
  • clobber
  • pommel
  • destroy
  • burden
  • defeat
  • massacre
  • trample
  • vanquish
  • overpower
  • thwart

I’d probably be careful with “ravage” (and maybe “ravish”, too) and “massacre”, since “ravage” and “ravish” are so closely associated with “rape” and using “massacre” to describe anything that’s not an actual massacre seems pretty minimizing to me.

Is “ravish” even used to not mean/make metaphors to rape?

Anyway, I’m a fan of “quash”

I have only really seen “Ravish” used to mean “rape” but then I have only seen it used like three times in my life as far as I can remember.

Wait… dictionary.

[goes to dictionary]

The old dictionary we have defines “ravish” as (paraphrasing here) “1. Carry away forcibly; 2. Rape; 3. Overwhelm with emotion”.

This newer online dictionary agrees (don’t know why I didn’t just look it up online in the first place).

So yeah it’s best not to use it.

Also, looking at the same online dictionary, “Ravage” does not seem quite as closely associated with rape, but “rapine” is listed as a synonym, and so is “ravish” I think.

So best not to use either of those (or “massacre”) as a replacement.

(Source: nathanonline, via thenameoftheworms)

haterina:

dinokitten:

butitlookslikefun:

kingdomburn:

ittasteslikedeath:

Bernini 1979 (by photographics@snet.net)
So we’re learning about Bernini in my art history class. He was an asshole. But do you see what he was capable of doing with marble. Do. You. See. This. It’s fucking amazing alsdjfalsjdgasdf

THIS IS FUCKING MARBLE. LIKE. W H A T .

jesus lord in heaven look at that. just look. his hands. her thigh. it’s marble turned into fucking flesh. AND IT’S MARBLE.

nrrrgh twilight why did you ruin my brain. D:

That sculpture is also known as The Rape of Proserpina.
People are ooh-ing and ah-ing over a scene of abduction. Over the grip of a predator.
But yeah dude was a shit-head.
I hate how a prescriptive history of art and misogynistic attitudes have made it okay for people to execute such sculpture and admire it as art. So the connection with Twilight doesn’t really ruin all that much D: D: D:

If you see the whole statue it is really fucking obvious she&#8217;s trying to push him away, too, so it&#8217;d be difficult to plead ignorance here.

haterina:

dinokitten:

butitlookslikefun:

kingdomburn:

ittasteslikedeath:

Bernini 1979 (by photographics@snet.net)

So we’re learning about Bernini in my art history class. He was an asshole. But do you see what he was capable of doing with marble. Do. You. See. This. It’s fucking amazing alsdjfalsjdgasdf

THIS IS FUCKING MARBLE. LIKE. W H A T .

jesus lord in heaven look at that. just look. his hands. her thigh. it’s marble turned into fucking flesh. AND IT’S MARBLE.

nrrrgh twilight why did you ruin my brain. D:

That sculpture is also known as The Rape of Proserpina.

People are ooh-ing and ah-ing over a scene of abduction. Over the grip of a predator.

But yeah dude was a shit-head.

I hate how a prescriptive history of art and misogynistic attitudes have made it okay for people to execute such sculpture and admire it as art. So the connection with Twilight doesn’t really ruin all that much D: D: D:

If you see the whole statue it is really fucking obvious she’s trying to push him away, too, so it’d be difficult to plead ignorance here.

(via torayot)