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{ Mexican women’s’ rights activist killed *TRIGGER WARNING* }

genderbitch:

Mexican women’s’ rights activist killed *TRIGGER WARNING*

genderqueerdukeofmexico:

“Susana Chavez, an internationally
renown poet and long time activist who spoke out against the decade-long femicide of woman in Juarez, was found murdered this week.”

(Source: femmequeermexicanaslut)

{ hooray, apologism! (*trigger warning* for misogynist AND ableist language) }

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{ “Ive seen so many beautiful curvy women gain success in hollywood and then wither into bobble headed stick figures in some grotesque attempt to fit a revolting hollywood trend. I like real women, not the broomsticks that Hollywood has been selling lately.” }

tranzient:

alliterate:

synthezoid:

keatscommajohn:

karaoke-dictatorship:

mcqueens:

sozzney:

sofarfromwhereivebeen:

seeminglyunconscious:

escapeyourmeaningless:

aislingturner:

emily-elizabeth-s:

-Matthew Gray Gubler

Oh Mr. MGG <3 Swoon

Can I just marry him

married to him

Oh boy.

I just keep telling myself, “He is talking about me. He is in love with me. He is talking about me.”

:|

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No.

Matthew Gray Gubler, you seem fabulous, but two things you are not:

1. Remus Lupin
2. Being a decent person with this quote.

All women are real women. And “Hollywood” isn’t the only cause of this problem where women feel that their bodies aren’t good enough, and go to great and harmful lengths to change them, and hate themselves for no good reason: it’s also because of bullshit quotes like this. This pseudo-acceptance thing, this “curvier women are sexier and skinny women are grotesque!” thing. You actually used the word “grotesque!” What the fuck is WRONG with you? Who the FUCK are you to tell ANY woman her body is “grotesque?” The pressure to conform, the pressure to look a certain way, that is grotesque — and all you are doing here is contributing to that trend.

Fuck off.

^^^

CAN WE LIKE MAYBE STOP FALLING OVER OURSELVES ABOUT ANOTHER DUDE WHO THINKS HE IS ENTITLED TO COMMENT ON WOMEN’S BODIES

Holy Jesus, there are so fucking many things wrong with that quote. Grotesque? Revolting? “Real” women? Are you fucking kidding me? BODY POLICING IS NOT OKAY, NO MATTER WHO IS DOING THE POLICING OR WHOSE BODY IS BEING POLICED.

wow. what an arsebutt.

This “I like real women” bullshit is something that skanky people (mostly skanky men) love to parrot when they want to seem “progressive”.

(Source: vermeers, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ amanda palmer is a shit }

genderbitch:

The Hyper-politicking Progressive Siamese: aintitgrand: Life is No Cabaret.: EXCUSE ME…

aintitgrand:

Life is No Cabaret.: EXCUSE ME RANT.

punkcabaretisfreedom:

PEOPLE WHO PRETEND TO BE AMANDA PALMER FANS PISS ME OFF SO MUCH.

PEOPLE WHO PRETEND TO BE FEMINISTS PISS ME OFF SO MUCH

By saying you are a FAN of AMANDA PALMER you are FAN of body acceptance and fucking the…

To clarify (because the “Like” system isn’t so clear here): I Like the anti-Palmer sentiment in the reblogs rather than the pro-Palmer rant.  Palmer’s such an asshole.

Especially love this from haterina:

To dismiss people with disabilities and minimise the terror that people of colour live with in their lives is absolutely politically correct as it supports the current status quo.

{ A New Approach }

genderbitch:

iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn:

i-am-the-lighthouse:

I’m not going to defend myself anymore. I exist for my readership, and it is always their support that helps to explain why I should be here. I am making a list of people who support me, and I welcome you to convince them not to support me. If you believe that women shouldn’t listen to my opinion, tell these women. They are the experts on both being women and being supporters of my blog.

Until you can convince women they shouldn’t support me, you cannot say that you speak for women when you tell me to stop blogging. If you do not represent these women, you cannot be said to represent their interests or the interests of feminism as a whole.

Anyone who has previously supported me is now in this list.

If you want to be removed from or added to the list, just let me know.

inherhipstheresrevolutions

whathunter

autumndae 

jeanette-darc 

thefuror 

lavidaescorta

stfuconservatives

deadpet

youremyguitarhero

whatfreshhellisthis

If you have something against silencing women, stop silencing these women. They want me to be here, they value my perspective and believe I am doing the right thing.

By trying to silence me, you are trying to silence the women who want me to do this.

this is frustrating. 

Not only is this cis male still speaking FOR women, he is now pitting women against each other for HIS sake. 

my head hurts so much right now.  Time to go eat more generic nutella and forget I read this.

Whoa, wtf, lighthouse.

I expected way better from you than this bullcrap. It’s got privileged LISTEN TO ME fail all over it and HEY LOOK AT MY WOMEN FRIENDS WHO’S EXISTENCE CLEARLY MEANS I’M NOT MAKING ANY MISTAKES.

I didn’t have a single quarrel with you before, but this? This was the wrong way to deal with people telling you not to blog. An oppressive, shitty way. Here’s hoping you have the decency to own up to that.

(Source: flapjackstate)

{ amanda palmer is even more of a shit than i thought }

adorianmode:

Fifteen Minutes To Fame: alliterate: angergirl: gwenfrankenstien: aintitgrand:…

annaham:

alliterate:

angergirl:

gwenfrankenstien:

aintitgrand:

punkcabaretisfreedom:

PEOPLE WHO PRETEND TO BE AMANDA PALMER FANS PISS ME OFF SO MUCH.

PEOPLE WHO PRETEND TO BE FEMINISTS PISS ME OFF SO MUCH

By saying you are a FAN of AMANDA PALMER you are FAN of body acceptance and fucking the social norm. I’m sorry. But like. Amanda Palmer. If you are FAN, not just someone who…

shit, amanda palmer fans piss me off. consider the fact that you’re stanning for an ableist, psuedo-Katy Perry raping hipster who thinks the KKK is ironic, and you’ve got…well, irony.

Amanda Palmer is for accepting bodies! Specifically, HER BODY. Not so much anybody else’s! Particularly if they have a disability, then they are just a joke to her. Also a joke to her? The fucking KLAN.

Seriously, I loved that woman with all my heart for a while there, but she has clearly shown that she is NOT about fucking with social norms in any kind of meaningful way.

Yeeeeeah, this. I used to like Palmer for her music—I didn’t really pay attention to her blog unless something new music-wise was coming out, so I missed pretty much 70% of what was going on. But then I discovered the ableist way she went about doing the “Evelyn Evelyn” show (is there ANY way that could NOT be ableist? The whole point of it hinged on using a disability as a selling factor), and did some background reading, and now I can’t be bothered to like Palmer.

And when I saw the Katy Perry video, I just kind of stared at it in horror for a minute and then turned it off and had to reevaluate how I thought about Palmer as a “feminist.” Because while Perry’s “I Kissed a Girl” trivialized identity, that video trivializes sexual violence.

Yep, pretty much. A few years back I was a MASSIVE Amanda Palmer fan! And then her ableist album came out. And then she went on a talk show and openly mocked the “website full of…disabled feminists” (i.e., FWD/Forward) who called her out on her ableism. And then she started saying, over and over again, in no uncertain terms, that she thinks her right to produce ~edgy~ art trumps marginalized people’s rights not to be further oppressed. And then she started using hipster racism on her blog. And then she started pretending to rape a Katy Perry lookalike in her stage show.

Yeah, I haven’t been much of an Amanda Palmer fan in quite a while now.

lucypaw:

I was well on my way to being an Amanda Palmer fan after watching her “Leeds United” video every day for about a month (Yay for obsessive tendencies).  Then all of the stuff mentioned above happened.  I’ve never become a real Amanda Palmer fan.

NOT TO BEAT A DEAD HORSE, BUT:

In my view, her TV appearance was very, very explicitly mocking me and the other FWD contributors. As if we were coming after her with pitchforks. Even though I was the one who wrote that post, and then Lauredhel wrote one, and then many people started writing posts on LJ and DW, it was suddenly “A bunch of DISABLED FEMINISTS are CRUCIFYING MEEEEEE.” Fuckin’ erasing people and hivemind conspiracy crap, how does it work? I guess saying that a bunch of people are AFTER YOUUUU is easier than actually, y’know, reading what some of these people wrote, as is dispatching your fans to openly harass and threaten a select few of those people in particular. I was one of the people targeted, and it sucked, and I think we have to keep talking about how much internet harassment is swept under the rug and is not talked about, by and large.

Remember that episode of South Park where Cartman and Jimmy write the infamous “fish dicks/fishsticks” joke, and there are several flashbacks to what Eric “remembers” about how he and Jimmy came up with the joke—which turn out to be not at all accurate, and in some cases, completely ridiculous? Yeah, that is kind of what the whole TV appearance thing reminded me of.

(via torayot)

pixyled:

dr-grumbles:

garlandgrey:

You know why feminists just plain do not care for you, lighthouse? You are a whiner. You whine about being called out, and then you play at acknowledging your own privilege. Even if you do make a good point now and again, you are far too much of a liability for any of us to discuss anything with you. You are capricious and spoiled, and your actions tell me that you still believe that this is all about you.

You want to be a better feminist Freddy? NOTHING IS STOPPING YOU BUT YOU. Here are five things that you can do, RIGHT NOW, to be a better feminist:

1. Do not write about women’s bodies or their sexuality until you’ve been writing and reading feminism long enough to understand that women will never care what you have to say in this area, apart from drawing their attention to the informed writings on this subject by other women.
2. When you are called out, apologize, remedy what you can, and then step away from the conversation. Do not permeate the conversation with your male privilege and use it to silence women into being nice to you. YOUR VOICE IS LOUDER THAN THEIRS IS. Pretending that you don’t know that is disingenuous. Read every word that is written about you and interrogate yourself rigorously. There is literally no other way to be a feminist.
3. Stop pretending that you deserve any more chances. You didn’t deserve the first one. You are affecting an acknowledgement of your own mistakes while framing the response to those mistakes as attacks—essentially saying they were right to call you out, but they could have been nicer about it, they could have taken you to a day spa and waited until you had your mud mask on and a towel around your head, laying in the steam room relaxing, and they could have lifted your cucumber slice and said “Lighthouse, it’s really shitty how you wear Feminism like a costume and then snarl and bite at people who wear Feminism like a life vest, seeking to silence them so you can be right all the damn time” so you could give your pores a vacation and better yourself, but take off that guacamole, you look ridiculous. If you think Feminism exists simply so that women can admire you, you are not a fixer upper. It is time to bring in the people with the hard hats.
4. We reserve the right to be angry at you forever. We are not bad people if we just don’t want to listen to you anymore.
5. Stop pretending that your voice is a candle in the dark. We are not here to hold your hand or tell you that you that you’re a special little snowflake deserving of puppy kisses and infinite ego cookies. We are adults, discussing adult things. Act like you have some sense, or vacate the fucking Internet.

These are not impossible demands, and they are less than we expect. 

This is a bulleted list of everything I’ve been trying to articulate all afternoon.

Yeah, this list is what I would reccomend as well.
BUt I’d also like to add to vigorously promote Feminist blogs written  by women whenever he can, and when addressing and issue or answering questions, it’d probably also be best to obtain a woman’s voice to add along side yours. Maybe start up a list of women feminist blogs to promote in each post.

(Source: flapjackstate, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)

{ Banning the burqa }

stfuislamophobes:

Out of all the debates I’ve had on STFU Islamophobes, the one that pops up the most is the banning of the burqa in France. 

Most of the reasons that pop up against burqas is this:

It is a safety concern. Many people could hide under them.

It oppresses women that have Muslim families who force women in wearing the burqa.

It secularizes a nation and prevents ‘sharia law’ from coming into a nation.

For the safety concern issue, there are many clothing items that can be used to commit a crime. If the burqa were to be banned because of this reason, then we should ban ski masks as well. Or how about trenchcoats? A lot of clothing can hide weapons and such. Do we ban those as well?

However, I will say one thing. The face should be revealed in terms of face identification issues, such as the airport. There are times when people need to see a person’s face.

That times do not happen when the other person feels personal discomfort if they see said person with a burqa on. I’m not personally comfortable with the idea of putting on a burqa myself, but that does not give me the right to take freedom away from Muslim women. If a person on the street sees a woman with a burqa on, it does not give them the right to take that right away from her.

This brings me to the new point of oppression against women. The government in France cannot dictate what oppression against women actually entails. Oppression against women happen when their clothing choices are being policed, which is being done by banning the burqa. Women want to wear the burqa. A major point of the burqa is that it actually isn’t listed in the Qur’an nor the hadiths that a woman had to wear one, it is a personal cultural choice. Women wear the burqa as a sign of modesty and it prevents people from judging them for their appearance. Unfortunately, they are still being judged as being the ‘oppressed woman’ or the ‘oppressed women with a bunch of grenades under her bra’. This judgement needs to stop. 

The Qur’an states that women need to be modest in their clothing. This varies immensely among the population, as a woman’s perception of modesty is different for each person. As a Muslim, I did not wear the hijab. I perceived modesty to be sleeved shirts and long pants. For other women, modesty is the burqa, and we can’t and should not stop that because it’s not our life. It’s not our choice to wear it, so why are people so hot and bothered about the fact that Muslim women are? Why do some so called feminists feel that the key to liberation is to take the Muslim woman out of her hijab or burqa? Feminism should be the fact that all women are allowed to choose their own clothing without anyone, especially a Western feminist, to tell them that they are being oppressed.

And my last point has to do with the myth of ‘creeping sharia’ in places such as America, France, and Canada. Making accommodations for the rising Muslim population in such areas is not a sign that Sharia law is going to come. A lot of Muslim nations even have secularized religious laws. As a firm believer that religion should stay out of politics, I can quite assure many people that Sharia law will never enter their region. It’s simply too paranoid an idea to even consider. Muslim women do not want to force anyone to wear a burqa, and if they do, they are wrong. Burqas are not a sign that the MUSLUMS ARE COMING, no, it’s just a ign that women want their modesty. 

Secularizing a nation should not allow women’s clothing choices to be limited. The burqa should not be banned because there are Muslim women who are not oppressed by it. 

However, I will address one thing: Sexism does happen in the name of religion, and horrific acts committed against women also happen in the name of Islam. Throwing acid, honor killings, they are all done in the name of Islam. This is wrong. This needs to be stopped. The burqa is a forced choice for many Muslim women as well. However, banning the burqa outright will keep the women in homes. This isn’t what I want, this isn’t what anyone wants, however, if a Muslim woman is forced to wear a burqa outside and if she is unable to do so, she will stay home. This is why re-education is needed in Islam. People are justifying violence against women to verses in the Qur’an. Education is the only way to stop oppression against women. 

Banning the burqa for oppressed Muslim women who are forced to wear it is kind of like victim blaming for me. The woman is forced to wear it, and if she can’t, the person who is forcing her will not let her out of the house, which puts the woman into even further danger. EDUCATION IS NEEDED for people like these. Education is needed for the woman. There must be some other way to stop Muslim women from being oppressed but banning the burqa is not the way to do it. It will keep women in homes. It will oppress women who wants to wear the burqa.

Another wonderful post about terrible things.

(Source: stfuislamobigotry)