I’m posting this in its entirety, hoping that everyone will read it. I hope you don’t mind, Rachel. This is too important to only link to, I think.
For those that don’t know, this is about the new series on NPR/PBS called Autism Today. I heard it earlier and was deeply offended, as well. I’ll be writing a direct letter this weekend. I may post it here, as well.
Dear Mr. MacNeil,
It has come to my attention that you are spreading dehumanizing stereotypes about us. In an interview to promote your upcoming series, Autism Today, you said the following about autism:
“It delays the most — delays or impairs for life — the most human thing we have, which is our ability to look into each others eyes and feel that other person’s existence and what might be going on in their mind, and to empathize with them. That is denied — largely denied — to children with autism.”
I remember you from the MacNeil-Lehrer News Hour. You always seemed to be an intelligent, nuanced, thoughtful human being. But then again, because I’m autistic, I must have been incapable of understanding what was going on in your mind all those years. Largely because of your statement regarding my supposed impairments in this area, I am beginning to doubt my previous judgment about you.
Your thinking about autism is anything but intelligent, nuanced, or thoughtful. It is based on the most pernicious misinformation and stereotypes our culture has to offer about the lives, hearts, and experiences of autistic people. I have been autistic for every moment of my 52 years on this earth and, believe me, I feel the existence of other people so acutely that I have to spend a good portion of my time alone. I walk into a room, and I feel the emotions of everyone there. My empathy is off the charts. And I am very well-skilled at figuring out all the possibilities for what might be going on in the mind of another person.
If I were less than fully capable of feeling another person’s existence, understanding what might be happening in that person’s mind, or empathizing with another human soul, I would not have a wonderful marriage to a loving, gentle, intelligent neurotypical man. Nor would I have a beautiful 18-year-old neurotypical daughter who tells me that I am the best mom she could ever ask for. How many teenagers say that about their parents? You don’t get there by failing to empathize with your child.
But don’t just take it from me. Ask any autistic person, on any portion of the spectrum, about the intensity with which he or she experiences other human beings, and you will hear much the same story.
What’s that? You didn’t interview any autistic people for your series?
Okay, let me get this straight: You are doing a series on a disability without ever having talked to anyone who actually has that disability.
I’m sorry, but has something changed in the journalistic profession? If you did a series on understanding people who use wheelchairs, would you talk only to their parents? To their doctors? To researchers? Or would you actually talk to the people using the wheelchairs so as to, you know, do a halfway decent job of helping your viewers understand their lives and experiences?
I don’t know. Maybe you wouldn’t. Maybe you think that disabled people have nothing to say. You clearly feel that way about autistic people.
But why? Well, I suppose that if you’ve already decided that we suffer an impairment in “the most human thing we have” (and “we” appears to refer only to non-autistic people since, clearly, actual autistic people wouldn’t actually be reading anything you have to say, much less understanding it or having feelings about it), the whole idea of talking to us kind of goes out the window, doesn’t it? I mean, who wants to talk to someone whose humanity is sub-par?
Are you even aware that many of us can speak? Yes, we can. We speak using our vocal chords, our computers, our body language, our affection, and our basic humanity.
But clearly, it’s never occurred to you to listen.
If you don’t want to hear us, if you want to continue living in utter ignorance of our thoughts and our lives, that is your right, but please, consider the following: What kind of a world are you creating for your autistic grandson? Do you want him to live in a world in which no one listens to him? In which people consider his humanity to be less than theirs? In which people believe that he has no feelings, no empathy, no understanding of other people? In which people don’t even bother to find a way to communicate with him, because it just doesn’t seem worth it?
What impact will the attitudes betrayed by your words have upon his happiness? Upon his ability to receive appropriate medical care? Upon his ability to make friends, to feel safe, and to develop self-respect? Will his civil and human rights be protected? Will he be treated with kindness?
Think about the world that you are helping to create and perpetuate. And believe me when I say that I know that world well, because I’ve lived in it for over half a century.
From where I sit, anyone who can’t treat another human being — any human being — as though that person has something to say and a right to be heard is not living up to his or her humanity.
Look at us. Listen to us. Feel our existence. Think about what might be going on in our hearts and minds. And for God’s sake, empathize with us.
You’ll be building a better world for everyone.
© 2011 by Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg