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inautumn-inkashmir:

greenstate:

stfuconservatives:

ailanthusaltissima:

First I am going to say that I am not being “offensive” and that if you read it as offensive, then there is something wrong with you.

Next, I am going to jump head first into a racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic rant. I will refer to groups as “those people” or “others”. I will minimize their concerns while also implying that they’re just too dimwitted to get the brilliance of my argument. I’ll rely on ideals of America, Freedom, and Justice and I will not acknowledge that these ideals are, by and large, available in full only to white, cis males. 

Then, I am going to make this even more all about me. I talk about how I can’t be racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic because I have a friend who is a person of color/a woman/an individual who identifies with a QUILTBAG label/a trans person. I say that if you question me, then you’re really the one who is racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic and I call upon a logical fallacy to back me up.

Finally, I tell people not to reblog or to publicly discuss my argument. If I see that my argument does not hold water and/or that many, many people disagree, I will delete the post and act like you all just didn’t get it.

Let’s keep it civil, even though I refuse to acknowledge you as my equal!

APT.

well this just sums everything up, doesn’t it?

^GOD THIS RANT IS AWESOME (even though it uses “____phobic/ia” terms, which are appropriative)

OH GOD THIS IS WHERE THE AWESOMENESS VORTEX STARTS

I TRY TO GET OUT BUT IT KEEPS PULLING ME BACK IN

(Source: aa-teeth, via genderbitch)

{ No seriously, I know I seem unapologetic, but I hide a deepset shame and self hate for like… virtually every fucking choice I make. Internalized misogyny, the kind you don’t get with male privilege. The kind that sinks in from young ages. }

genderbitch:

I internalized all that shit. That girls aren’t supposed to have a lot of sex. Every time someone calls me a slut or a whore it’s like getting kicked in the face.

I still constantly question why I have so much sex, often asking myself through internalized sexism if I’m just emotionally damaged and fucking the pain away.

I attack the way I dress and a lot of times I dress feminine around people cuz I just don’t want to be judged. You know what kept me from dressing femininely before I transitioned? My dissonant hate for my body did. A lot of feminine clothing is also revealing and tight and I didn’t wanna see my disgusting form.

The size of my breasts? Not a dissonance thing. My self esteem is hurt by them cuz I feel like I’m too small to be attractive. Oh did I mention that I can’t stop thinking about whether I’m attractive and pulling self esteem from it, cuz that shit got forced into my head like it did to so many cis girls? That this applied before I even realized I was trans?

Did I mention I often felt pressure to be submissive to others, to apologize all the time, to back off and not hold strong opinions, even before transition cuz of that subconscious association between me and other women and the internalization of those messages? That all my role models were women, never men, never nonbinaries, even when I thought I was bigender and thought I was a guy?

Socialized as male my fucking ass. You people have no fucking idea what you’re talking about.

Not that this is surprising. No one actually listens to the erased segments of the trans community that experienced things differently than how the cis feminists theorize. Or how the trans feminists who did experience male privilege theorize.

Our experiences don’t matter, all that matters is the theory.

It’s groce and it hurts people like me. Denies us resources we need just as much as cis girls to deal with the same fucking damage done to us by a misogynistic world.

(“#awesome” for the words, “#terrible things” for the subject)

{ Male privilege and trans women }

eateroftrees:

literallyaimee:

I’ve been wanting to write this post all fucking day.

It’s no secret; a large majority of trans women grew up and were socialized as males.  The segment of the trans population I am talking about are girls who transition between the ages of 16-30. 

We grew up as boys.  We learn as boys do, so to speak.  We benefitted from male privilege.  It doesn’t define us, but it does change the way we think.  Here’s an exercise for you: Look for all the ways you think, the ways you do things. Think about how they were influenced by growing up assigned male.

-I don’t have issues with sexual promiscuity; while it does sting to be called a slut, I am able to overlook the mixed messages society sends me about my sexual habits*

-My body issues stem mostly from not matching cis baseline; however, societal images of the ‘ideal woman’ also affect me.

-I had an easier time in school due to teachers wanting to focus energy on my gifts - time i believe would not have been spent on me were I FAAB.

-I am not afraid to have ‘masculine’ interests, like camping and video games.  I don’t worry about being seen as ‘less feminine’ because I like these things, and as a child, I was encouraged to be interested in these things.

-I am more proud of being queer and less likely to hide it.  I’m not sure if it’s exactly from the male privilege end, as I was afraid to express any queerness while I still presented male.

There are probably an asston more examples, but these are what I could think of off the top of my head.  I mean, you know, this obviously doesn’t mean trans women are supremely privileged, either.  We don’t get cis privilege. Trans women definitely have benefitted from male privilege, but that doesn’t mean we don’t suffer from our own share of oppression.  Just take the time out of your day to realize how you benefitted from privilege.  It helps everyone.

I’m a bit curious how you read these as privilege.  I mean, I suppose maybe you’re probably getting lucky and not having issues with these, but like, for me, while some of these are true, they’re not a symptom of male privilege, they’re the things that didn’t get fucked over by internalized cissexism and heterosexism.

And they most certainly are not free from angst.  Because like, I am well aware that these things are associated with being male and oh, look, doing things that are associated with being male sets off the dysphoria. Woooo~

Like, I’ll give you the “socialized as males” thing (well except for the part where you used “male” as a noun, that’s creepy and dehumanizing) because that sort of seems to apply in my case.  A bit.

BUT THAT’S THE WHOLE PROBLEM! Being socialized as male didn’t mean I got a bunch of aspects of male privilege, it only meant I got—as Kinsey explained when she reblogged this—passing as male privilege.

Like, I may not have issues with promiscuity because of slut shaming (and THAT’S A BLATANT LIE BUT WHATEVER) but I have enormous issues any time I get near a sexual situation because OH MY GOD I’M BEING MALE GET THIS SHIT OFF ME EWEWEWEWEWEWEW.

And I totally pick up ridiculous amounts of mixed messages because like, I’m simultaneously only comfortable having sex with men (because that’s what women are supposed to do) and not comfortable at all with any level sexual or emotional contact with men (Because men aren’t supposed to do that because that’s gay which is bad.  Also because it’s mostly been men who have harassed me over my gender and that’s been going on since preschool—SO YEAH NOT MALE PRIVILEGE.)

Body issues: Yeah those I definitely have.  Becaues you know, there’s no way I could possibly be attractive because my body isn’t an ideal and that makes me completely worthless.  OH LOOK THAT’S NOT A NARRATIVE THAT GETS DIRECTED AT MEN.

Oh yeah and I don’t feel comfortable cutting my hair (which is practically to my waist now) because then I wouldn’t look as feminine and that would make me feel REALLY GROSS and also EVERYONE WOULD CONSTANTLY MISGENDER ME.

Honestly I’d probably feel waaaay less pressure to conform to gender ideals if I were cis and didn’t feel like I constantly have to reinforce my gender to get people to recognize it.  That’s not male privilege.

Plus it isn’t like being raised as male didn’t instill in me an enormous phobia of doing anything perceived as girly or feminine.  Like I get panic attacks about wearing skirts sometimes still and I have been doing it for years now.  And abotu having any interest that’s at all girly.  And I get massive bouts of self loathing about playing video games.

Oh yeah and writing these enormous highly verbose rants about my gender ALSO MAKES ME GO INTO BOUTS OF GENDER ANGST SELF LOATHING SHIT because being vocal and assertive about things, that’s pretty much a male associated thing.

SO: That’s not male privilege; that’s MAAB trans… um… nonprivilege.

Male privilege is when society tells you how attractive you are isn’t really that important.  What I got was society telling me that it’s impossible to be attractive because I’m MAAB, and my still thinking it’s one of the most important things ever.

(I’m not going to touch on the school thing, but that’s because my school was so ridiculously inadequate at meeting my needs because I my intellectual development was waaaaaaaaay out of sync with my peers.  Or “gifted” or “smart” but I don’t trust those terms AT ALL because there’s some ableist—and probably classist and racist—shit all mixed up in them.  Also I had undiagnosed ADD.)

(Also for the queer thing: I was profoundly uncomfortable with the fact that I am occasionally attracted to men—and for that matter, MAAB nonbinaries and women because at that point my internalized cissexism was ridiculously strong and completely unanalyzed—until I identified as female, and realized that hey wait a minute liking men doesn’t make me gay…  Plus I still freak out sometimes if I’m too girly because it’s “gay.” So yeah any comfort I have with a trans lesbian (mostly) identity is pretty much not a product of being MAAB.)

Also: I will admit that being mostly apathetic to the world and my gender when I was growing up may have protected me a bit from certain harmful cultural narratives that tend to hit women.  But that’s not male privilege.  Especially not any more.

(via thenameoftheworms)

{ Everyone, I’m really not that informed on pop culture. }

tranzient:

bodyfluid:

Like, at all. 

I mean, I have my opinions and my opinions are the reason I don’t pay attention.
I don’t like reading things that make me uncomfortable, and to be honest, a lot of these celebrities make me uncomfortable.

Like the Sarah Silverman thing. Has everyone forgotten that she dressed up in black face while making a racist joke? 

Or Amanda Palmers ‘ironic’ view of the KKK and the fake rape scene on stage, which Margaret Cho was a part of.

Then all the stuff I’ve been saying about Ke$ha, Katy Perry and Lady Gaga. Why are we ignoring these things?

They aren’t great allies. We should not allow people in this world to be shoved under the bus while they’re making money through our expense.

Wow. Lost a lot of respect for Margaret Cho. And yeah, I’m done with everyone else listed. 

Margaret Cho, noooooooooooooooo!  Why!

(Source: elvanui, via tranzient-deactivated20110219-d)